First Impressions

First impressions have always been thought of as the most important key when meeting new people. I know you’ve all heard “make a good first impression, that’s what counts.” However, what I’ve been thinking about this week is that it is not first impression that count, it is how the person acts after they get comfortable with you.

I have met plenty of people who made a good first impression on me, but after getting to know them they turned out to be someone totally different. It’s like when you first meet someone you want to have a relationship with, each one will do nice things to reel in their catch. Once you’ve made your catch there is no motivation to do nice things. This is the time when a persons’ true personality shines through.

Red flags start dropping everywhere if you’ve made a bad catch. Once the person already knows that you’re theirs they will stop masking their true identity. You may notice that the person is actually a controlling, incompetent, psycho. A lot of people begin to notice a person’s personality changes, but do not want to admit it because they still think of them as the nice person they were in the beginning. The truth is if a person is genuinely nice, and cares about you they will continue to do what they did to get you, just so they can keep you.

I’ve noticed a lot of guys have what I like to call the “Momma’s boy syndrome”. Some guys rely on their mothers to do everything for them, and I have another name for the mothers that do that, it’s called an enabler. Their moms cook, clean, do their laundry, remind them of appointments, and anything else they may need. When a guy begins to spend more time with you than with his mother, he will assume you will take the place of the things she normally does for him. Instead of him taking care of you, you’ll be catering to him. This is something you should be aware of before you get in too deep, because you didn’t sign up to be someone’s fill in mother.

On a lighter note you may begin to realize that you caught a real winner. The person may exemplify everything you thought that they were from the beginning. My dad is the best example of this. He still does sweet things for my mom, just to show he cares. If he feels like my mom may be having a bad day he will find any way to cheer her up. Even if it’s just picking up a candy bar for her on the way home, it’s the thought he put into thinking of her, picking the kind he knows she likes, and bringing it to her without her asking.

The important thing is to know your own self worth; everyone deserves someone who will treat them with the importance they gave them before the relationship. It is not okay or normal for someone to start being controlling and vindictive.